Reasons, or Excuses? What say you?
Reasons, or Excuses?
You remember how as children made the craziest excuses for not doing something we were supposed to do or for doing something that we were not supposed to do?
Well, the same thing still happens to us as adults. The difference is, we have the benefit of life experience to tell the difference between Reasons and Excuses. Sometimes there is a very thin line between the two. Sometimes we try to “justify” our actions – even when that justification does not really condone our actions.
But there is a more difficult problem in determining the difference between a reason or an excuse – Our Perception. Sometimes what some considers Reasons, others say that they are Excuses.
How Can We Tell The Difference?
That is not an easy question to answer. Again, it depends on our perception of things and how we judge right and wrong. The problem with that is, sometimes we are so busy judging others that we forget to take a look at ourselves.
As a Christian, I try my best to use Jehovah God's word as a measuring stick for my choices and my behavior. That does not mean that I will not make mistakes. Far from it. What that means for me is that I am more aware of my mistakes – past and present. The past cannot be changed, but I can always work on the present and help to shape a better future for myself and encourage others.
How you who are reading this article tell the difference between Reasons and Excuses is, of course, totally up to you.
An Illustration That Helps Me
A particular illustration that helps me comes from the Bible account about when the Apostle Peter denied knowing Jesus when Jesus had been arrested. You can read about the account here: https://www.jw.org/finder?wtlocale=E&docid=1102014726&srcid=share
If a person so faithful as Peter can make such a mistake, how much more so can we do the same in many situations in life? Sometimes others can be very critical of the mistakes that we have made in the past and the ones that we make today.
The problem is, sometimes they don't realize that some of us beat ourselves up over and over again about particular mistakes that we have made – especially when those mistakes have hurt the feeling of others, even affecting their life in a negative way. Some choose to look at our Reasons for doing the wrong that we did as Excuses. I don't think they realize how much that hurts.
What if Jesus would have treated Peter the same way? What if Jesus had said 'I TOLD you you would deny me three times, but you didn't believe me, and now you come with the excuse that you were scared.' How do you think that would have made Peter feel. Probably ten times lower than he already felt! Would that have been very loving of Jesus? Of course not.
As Christians we are encouraged to imitate the attitude and example of Jesus. Even if we are not a Christian, we can certainly benefit from applying the principles Jesus taught.
So, the next time we want to be overly critical of someone, let us remember to examine ourselves and realize how in need of forgiveness we are about certain things that we have said and done to others. That does not mean that we have to go around forgiving everyone for everything – forgiveness has to be earned. But we can “make place for forgiveness” by giving someone the benefit of the doubt when they apologize for something they have done in the recent or even distant past.
Sometimes we have to work very hard at not repeating the same mistakes or making similar ones. Sometimes we fail. It will happen. The point is, do we do it on purpose, or do we do it because we are human and will often sin over and over again – even though we try not to. It happens.
At this point you may be asking 'what the HECK does this have to do with Business John?' Well, how we deal with thing in Business is a reflection of how we deal with things in life. It is a part of our “BRAND;” whether we think so or not.
Maybe that is something we in the Internet Marketing Industry really need to think about.
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